Everyone’s agenda and desires take a backseat to the first aid and trauma response. Whatever the situation, the Mom is incommunicado—a problem that might need to be addressed at a different time—and a solution needs to be provided. Scenario 5: Kids as an excuse This is similar to number 4.
(“Your daughter has fallen on the playground and needs to see a doctor.”) And beware that many requests can be setup like a crisis, (“Dad, I need my science binder by 3rd period tomorrow—I left it at your house.”) when they are actually poorly formed requests. Scenario 3: The ex drops the ball“Dad, I need someone to pick me up after the cross-country meet, and I can’t reach Mom.” Things happen. And between strained ex-parents, there can be some manipulation and control going on. “Okay, count on me to be there if we can’t get your Mom to respond. But of course, go to your cross-country race, and we’ll figure it out.”Scenario 4: I’d really rather …Kids can be an excuse to get out of anything. If your divorced dad is always breaking plans because his kid is sick, getting an award, has a recital … When used in relationship, the “excuse” is often used to recover from a miss of some sort. The kids got home and all hell broke loose.” That might be okay, if your call was just a “nighty night” check-in, but if you were scheduled to talk about living arrangements, that might be an example of using the kids as an excuse for not taking responsibility.
She’s a woman, not a child, after all - even if she is your daughter’s age. “When I was your age...” “Young people are so ____.” “Oh you weren't even BORN when this album was released.” “You were still a toddler in 1989?
E Yes, it's gross and it doesn't need to be pointed out. Don’t assume you know better Keep a check on your tone; is it supportive or patronising?
We get it, you're financially comfortable, but unless you are a member of the Kardashian family, you do not need that much bling. Don't flash the cash too freely Salaries generally get bigger with age, so there’s a reasonable chance that you earn more than she does.
This might mean you both have different lifestyle expectations.
Twenties = shock; thirties = chic; forties and beyond = cheque. Leave the trend-led streetwear to youngsters who need to compensate for a lack of personality or confidence. Now is the time for creating a capsule wardrobe, a slick canvas of smart pieces which make the most of the fact that you can now actually carry-off “suave” without looking like you're wearing your dad's wedding suit to a funeral.
Certainly things change as dating evolves into a relationship, but let’s take the first date as our benchmark for good behavior, especially on the divorced dad’s side of the dinner table.Not to p--- on your parade, but be aware that most of us 20-somethings are more than capable of being pretty damn lazy and stubborn too.