"[Introverts are] one-on-one in the email stage and on a date.
They don’t have to worry about being at a dinner party, talking to eight people, figuring out how to look charming,” she said. She maintains that online dating can work for introverts in ways offline dating doesn't.
Five results came up, one of which ended up becoming his wife.
“He shared the online profile his future wife had written, and you could see she was so charming and soulful in an introverted way," Cain said.
“Most of the fears that people have, that fear is over as quickly as they do it," she said.
"They’re afraid that everybody sees them, and then they realize that nobody sees them.
Still, introverts, especially men, who Hartman and Cain agreed face different expectations than women, may find it difficult to ask out someone they've been messaging.
"Those initial conversations you can do over email online.” That intimacy continues to be an advantage during the dating stage."It’s a way of fulfilling sentimental human need for connection and romance without having to put yourself through a very unpleasant process of going to singles bars and things like that," Cain told , Cain writes about the "self-negating choices" introverts make when they feel the pressure to identify themselves as outgoing.